"How many times have you stopped yourself from kissing your same-sex partner goodbye on the train?"
(James & Matt – Photo: Andy Tyler Photography)
When I married my husband, I never thought someone would say they want to ‘assassinate’ me because of it.
I wrote last week about receiving death threats since my same-sex civil partnership, and the comments went off.
For the most part, people congratulated me and the comments on the story were predominantly positive.
One user said: ‘We must never let up and the fight goes on for you two – be happy and safe.’ But it’s also a sad story for LGBTI visibility.
One user wrote: ‘Speaking as a gay man in his 50s who has been with his, now husband, for nearly 25 years, we have become accustomed to not showing affection – even in front of those that love us and rejoice in our love for each other.
‘It’s a conditioning based on not wanting to rock the boat and a conditioning that becomes weary,’ he wrote.
Another user argued: ‘Terrible to have endure this but I agree that going back into the closet isn’t an option.’
At the start of this week, the UK government sent a strong message to people who post hateful messages online: stop.
A new proposal aims to treat online homophobic abuse as severely as abuse in real life. It states cases should be pursued with the same ‘robust and proactive approach used with offline offending.’
This is positive news for LGBTI people like myself who have had to report homophobic comments online.
But we mustn’t be complacent offline. We must continue to report homophobic abuse when we experience it on the streets.
How many times have you stopped yourself from kissing your same-sex partner goodbye on the train? How many times have you changed outfits because something looks too feminine or too masculine?
We censor ourselves and it’s time to stop. It’s time we rise up and fight back.
This incident gives me a clear resolve: I will never stop being unapologetically queer.
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